My mother is 70 years young and had surgery for strabismus at age 18. She has had double vision that can no longer be corrected by prisms (she already has 12.) Sadly, she has had to curtail her driving.
I am looking for advice – How to support her emotionally, especially. Are there any seniors who can share their stories and coping strategies?
I wrote back:
I’m one of the boomers that will turn 60 this year. My children have been wonderful to help. Just knowing you are there and that you care will mean a lot to your mom.
The things I’ve always enjoyed and planned to take into retirement with me some day are mostly things that involve detailed work with my eyes. I am now coming to grips with the fact that there will likely be limits to this. There are probably some things your mother can still see and enjoy though. Photos are easier to see than printed material. Even if you can’t see it well, nature can still be beautiful…a walk in the park, or a trip to the beach may help.
The thing I’ve found most helpful through my life, though, is to use my problems to help others. Here is an excellent example of how one 80 year old woman used her failing vision to help others:
I like the part that says she still made some pillows even though it took her longer. For those with limited vision it may take longer but retired persons have more time so can afford to spend longer to accomplish things. It works out.
Please share your stories and coping strategies, especially you seniors!
Photo credit: Ana Labate