Comments on: Who will love me with my turned eye? http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/ ...also known as crossed eyes, lazy eye, wall eyes, squint, tropia, double vision, turned, floating, wandering, wayward, or drifting eyes. Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:48:56 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: dave http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-40050 dave Mon, 12 Oct 2009 04:18:06 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-40050 i to was born with a lazy eye (my left eye). i hate going out and it has affected me when i work when people act like they think i'm stupid. i'm going to a pediatric opthomologist since i have amplyopia and strabismus in my left eye. if you want you can email me at pepsiguy40@gmail.com if you want to know how my appointment is. i would love to be your friend. please write to me. i to was born with a lazy eye (my left eye). i hate going out and it has affected me when i work when people act like they think i’m stupid. i’m going to a pediatric opthomologist since i have amplyopia and strabismus in my left eye. if you want you can email me at pepsiguy40@gmail.com if you want to know how my appointment is. i would love to be your friend. please write to me.

]]> By: Sibusiso http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-32261 Sibusiso Tue, 02 Dec 2008 21:45:26 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-32261 I am a young south african boy..at th age of 17 ,al my lyf ive bn strugglng wit strabismus..evn th gal i thot was my souldmate who i met thru cyber d8ng dumbd me onbe sh saw my eyes,..evn at skwl ts dffcult..especialy wen doing orals or presentation.. I am a young south african boy..at th age of 17 ,al my lyf ive bn strugglng wit strabismus..evn th gal i thot was my souldmate who i met thru cyber d8ng dumbd me onbe sh saw my eyes,..evn at skwl ts dffcult..especialy wen doing orals or presentation..

]]> By: Holly http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-32104 Holly Thu, 27 Nov 2008 12:13:47 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-32104 I too have strabismus. I have suffered for the past 3 years. although i was born with this condiction, I was told to wear glasses to correct the appearance. High school was pretty bad as i got teased for wearing glasses and eventually I dropped out, as I couldn't stand the name calling and constant back stabbers. I then refused to wear my glasses and i got more positive male attention. It did boost my confidence. my eyes stayed straight for maybe 3 months. Then my eyes started to turn again, I couldn't bare to wear my glasses all the time and would often break down crying because I felt so ugly, I still do. I have naturally beautiful curly hair, but because of my eyes, I cut it and wore my fringe over my right eye (even when i was going out for meals and wanted to look nice, unfortunately strabismus is taking control). This didnt help as I then got made fun of again. By adults this time! They would laugh at me and make remarks in front of loads of people, it made me feel terrible. I was also born with cerebal palsy, which makes it difficult for me to insert contact lenses. Im a 16 year old girl who just wants to live her life. Have fun taking silly photos with her friends (i hate photos of me) and be happy with herself. Im hoping I will recieve surgery. So I can relate to a lot of the stories here. Comments welcome =]. Holly I too have strabismus. I have suffered for the past 3 years. although i was born with this condiction, I was told to wear glasses to correct the appearance. High school was pretty bad as i got teased for wearing glasses and eventually I dropped out, as I couldn’t stand the name calling and constant back stabbers. I then refused to wear my glasses and i got more positive male attention. It did boost my confidence. my eyes stayed straight for maybe 3 months. Then my eyes started to turn again, I couldn’t bare to wear my glasses all the time and would often break down crying because I felt so ugly, I still do. I have naturally beautiful curly hair, but because of my eyes, I cut it and wore my fringe over my right eye (even when i was going out for meals and wanted to look nice, unfortunately strabismus is taking control). This didnt help as I then got made fun of again. By adults this time! They would laugh at me and make remarks in front of loads of people, it made me feel terrible. I was also born with cerebal palsy, which makes it difficult for me to insert contact lenses. Im a 16 year old girl who just wants to live her life. Have fun taking silly photos with her friends (i hate photos of me) and be happy with herself. Im hoping I will recieve surgery. So I can relate to a lot of the stories here. Comments welcome =]. Holly

]]> By: Rick http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-20764 Rick Sun, 27 Jul 2008 19:44:08 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-20764 I have strabismus and have struggled with it all my life.I have always had anxiety regarding social settings because of it.Lately I am haveing a lot of anxiety,panic,and some depression which are related to my squint.I wear glasses,with a prism but have chronic double vision.I recently had some retinal disease in my weak(left) eye which blurred my vision more.I have always felt that my double vision has contributed to my anxiety,and wondered if other people have the same problem.I had a muscle operation when I was a child,but it was done too late-the vision never became monocular.I hope that maybe by shareing with some fellow sufferers,maybe I can find some peace.Appreciate comments.Rick I have strabismus and have struggled with it all my life.I have always had anxiety regarding social settings because of it.Lately I am haveing a lot of anxiety,panic,and some depression which are related to my squint.I wear glasses,with a prism but have chronic double vision.I recently had some retinal disease in my weak(left) eye which blurred my vision more.I have always felt that my double vision has contributed to my anxiety,and wondered if other people have the same problem.I had a muscle operation when I was a child,but it was done too late-the vision never became monocular.I hope that maybe by shareing with some fellow sufferers,maybe I can find some peace.Appreciate comments.Rick

]]> By: Jamie http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-9409 Jamie Sun, 26 Aug 2007 02:12:16 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-9409 my email is terzanelle@aol.com if anyone would like to talk or share stories my email is terzanelle@aol.com if anyone would like to talk or share stories

]]> By: Jamie http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-9408 Jamie Sun, 26 Aug 2007 02:08:23 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-9408 Hi I've been searching the net for a while trying to find people like me. I came across your letter and bawled my eyes out. I can realte 100 percent. I have accommidative strabismus but I'm beyond insecure. I look in the mirror and don;t like what I see. No one understands except for the people who have strabismus. I'm so lonley cold and bitter I hate it. I truley believe my soul mate will have stabismus. Seeing as how I feel the only people who can relate are the people who have the condition. My heart goes out to people with strabismus. I know some cope with it well while others like myself have difficulties. Hi I’ve been searching the net for a while trying to find people like me. I came across your letter and bawled my eyes out. I can realte 100 percent. I have accommidative strabismus but I’m beyond insecure. I look in the mirror and don;t like what I see. No one understands except for the people who have strabismus. I’m so lonley cold and bitter I hate it. I truley believe my soul mate will have stabismus. Seeing as how I feel the only people who can relate are the people who have the condition.

My heart goes out to people with strabismus. I know some cope with it well while others like myself have difficulties.

]]> By: trophy http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-9337 trophy Fri, 29 Jun 2007 14:06:04 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-9337 i am a person who lived with a crossed eye,everyone notice.but why is that without glasses there really crossed and with glasses there okay. i am a person who lived with a crossed eye,everyone notice.but why is that without glasses there really crossed and with glasses there okay.

]]> By: Cathy http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-9283 Cathy Sun, 10 Jun 2007 17:53:56 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-9283 To: Anthony I first read your blog, it stayed on my mind. I have a unseen disability. Relationships with any kind of disability is difficult in a world of perfect bodies. But, I ask that you first love you, for if you cannot identify love of self then it will difficult to give love. I met someone by accident with this condition and it threw me off for a quick second but I still thought he was so absolutely show-stopping sexy. Please don't hide from the world and one day some ladies will look at you and think you are show-stopping sexy. Love if true does not last due physical beauty but because of beauty and caliber of heart. I read your blog and I see your beauty, your courage, your passion and please do the surgery if you need to but, please don't change who you are and be patient with the ignorance of others. It is not the wrapping of a present but the gift inside. To: Anthony

I first read your blog, it stayed on my mind. I have a unseen disability. Relationships with any kind of disability is difficult in a world of perfect bodies.
But, I ask that you first love you, for if you cannot identify love of self then it will difficult to give love. I met someone by accident with this condition and it threw me off for a quick second but I still thought he was so absolutely show-stopping sexy. Please don’t hide from the world and one day some ladies will look at you and think you are show-stopping sexy. Love if true does not last due physical beauty but because of beauty and caliber of heart. I read your blog and I see your beauty, your courage, your passion and please do the surgery if you need to but, please don’t change who you are and be patient with the ignorance of others. It is not the wrapping of a present but the gift inside.

]]> By: Caroline http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4311 Caroline Sat, 24 Mar 2007 01:28:19 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-4311 Hi Jack, I enjoyed reading your story. I full agree with you. You examples are interesting and a good comparison. I just found out that I can voluntarily move one eye, then I can also voluntarily move the other eye. I can control this. I thought I has strong muscles in my eyes. I may be the cause why my two sons have strabismus, genetics. I saw my doctor and I am just waiting on a referral for the specialist. Hi Jack,
I enjoyed reading your story. I full agree with you. You examples are interesting and a good comparison. I just found out that I can voluntarily move one eye, then I can also voluntarily move the other eye. I can control this. I thought I has strong muscles in my eyes. I may be the cause why my two sons have strabismus, genetics. I saw my doctor and I am just waiting on a referral for the specialist.

]]> By: Jack http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4250 Jack Fri, 23 Mar 2007 02:51:42 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/#comment-4250 Anthony, I just read your post and I completely understand everything you wrote. I am in my early 30's and have the same questions and concerns. I feel the rejection and believe that my eyes hold me back from being highly attractive. However, my problem is slightly worse than your's. I have pseudostrabismus. My eyes are perfectly straight, but my eyes are asmmetrical. This gives me the false appearance of exotropia. Since medically there is nothing wrong with my eyes, the doctors cannot cosmetically correct my eyes because I will end up with double vision. My advice to you is this. Get the surgery. Work a job that has insurance, even if its a minimum wage McJob. With strabismus you don't need vision insurance, you just need regular healthcare. Health insurance will cover the procedure. If this is impossible, then I say pay for the surgery out of pocket. Apply for a credit card. Do whatever you need to do. I assure you its worth it. Finally, regarding feeling like a sell out. That argument is a loser. Would you look down on someone who has cancer signing up for chemo. You have a disease. Cure it! We live in the golden age of optometry (sp?). If it isn't curable today, its on its way down the belt. That's what keeps me from jabbing a pencil in my eye! And regarding people treating you different. That's just more reason to get the surgery. People may currently reject you because they have problems looking into your eyes. This a reality. Get it fixed. If I had bad Body odor, deodorant would solve the problem. I wouldn't fault someone who was turned off by someone who smells bad. In conclusion, I wish I strabismus, then I could get it fixed. The Best, Jack Anthony,

I just read your post and I completely understand everything you wrote. I am in my early 30′s and have the same questions
and concerns. I feel the rejection and believe that my eyes hold me back from being highly attractive. However, my problem
is slightly worse than your’s. I have pseudostrabismus. My eyes are perfectly straight, but my eyes are asmmetrical. This
gives me the false appearance of exotropia. Since medically there is nothing wrong with my eyes, the doctors cannot
cosmetically correct my eyes because I will end up with double vision.

My advice to you is this. Get the surgery. Work a job that has insurance, even if its a minimum wage McJob. With
strabismus you don’t need vision insurance, you just need regular healthcare. Health insurance will cover the procedure.
If this is impossible, then I say pay for the surgery out of pocket. Apply for a credit card. Do whatever you need to do.
I assure you its worth it.

Finally, regarding feeling like a sell out. That argument is a loser. Would you look down on someone who has cancer signing
up for chemo. You have a disease. Cure it! We live in the golden age of optometry (sp?). If it isn’t curable today,
its on its way down the belt. That’s what keeps me from jabbing a pencil in my eye!

And regarding people treating you different. That’s just more reason to get the surgery. People may currently reject
you because they have problems looking into your eyes. This a reality. Get it fixed. If I had bad Body odor, deodorant
would solve the problem. I wouldn’t fault someone who was turned off by someone who smells bad.

In conclusion, I wish I strabismus, then I could get it fixed.

The Best,
Jack

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