Comments on: Finding support through strabismus groups http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/ ...crossed eyes, lazy eye, amblyopia, wall eyes, squint, tropia, double vision, turned, floating, wandering, wayward, or drifting eyes. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 16:33:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lois (admin) http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-45706 Lois (admin) Thu, 08 Dec 2011 03:56:32 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-45706 Lumi, please seem my response to a similar comment you shared here: http://www.eyesapart.com/2005/07/14/strabismus-support/comment-page-1/#comment-45705 Lumi, please seem my response to a similar comment you shared here:
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]]> By: Luminita Ilas http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-45697 Luminita Ilas Tue, 06 Dec 2011 14:51:54 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-45697 I'm 43. I have strabismus. I was born with it. It disappeared while I was a teenager, it came back when I was around 26. I married beneath me, I settled because of it. I hate my life because of it, I'm suicidal most of the times. I have a 10 year-old daughter who, THANK GOD, doesn't have it. I dread she might get it in time. It's like the worst curse possible. I think I consider all other curses and disesases more bearable than this one. People look at me for about a sec and then just look away and make that noise that announces some sort of urge to spit or vomit or sth. I simply feel awful. No matter how much I keep counting my blessings, my life's a mess because of this terrible misfortune. Please, write back whoever is out there and know what I'm going through - I desperately need support!!... My heart goes out to you all, all of you who suffer the same torment as I... Lumi Ilas from Romania I’m 43. I have strabismus. I was born with it. It disappeared while I was a teenager, it came back when I was around 26. I married beneath me, I settled because of it. I hate my life because of it, I’m suicidal most of the times. I have a 10 year-old daughter who, THANK GOD, doesn’t have it. I dread she might get it in time. It’s like the worst curse possible. I think I consider all other curses and disesases more bearable than this one. People look at me for about a sec and then just look away and make that noise that announces some sort of urge to spit or vomit or sth. I simply feel awful. No matter how much I keep counting my blessings, my life’s a mess because of this terrible misfortune.
Please, write back whoever is out there and know what I’m going through – I desperately need support!!… My heart goes out to you all, all of you who suffer the same torment as I…
Lumi Ilas from Romania

]]> By: Benjamin http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-45489 Benjamin Mon, 09 May 2011 22:28:59 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-45489 I have strabismus aged 27- exotropia with a dash of hypotropia. (Looks away from my nose and down) It is a blight on ones confidence. About one in fifty people mention it which either means it's very subtle or the other 49 are too tactful to point it out! I might be eligible for more surgery but there is a danger of an over correction from divergent to convergent. I don't consider myself particularly succesful with women and I would love to ask them- is it the strabismus or am i just boring and ugly, strabismus or not? I have strabismus aged 27- exotropia with a dash of hypotropia. (Looks away from my nose and down) It is a blight on ones confidence. About one in fifty people mention it which either means it’s very subtle or the other 49 are too tactful to point it out! I might be eligible for more surgery but there is a danger of an over correction from divergent to convergent. I don’t consider myself particularly succesful with women and I would love to ask them- is it the strabismus or am i just boring and ugly, strabismus or not?

]]> By: Jamie Burton http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-45289 Jamie Burton Sat, 09 Oct 2010 02:46:21 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-45289 I have strabismus. It was in both eyes. At 18 months I had surgery in my left eye. I grew up with thick glasses and being teased until I was in middle school. Contacts became available and gave me a new life. I was able to meet boys in high school and still was teased, but not much. I always thought, if I could just have surgery in the other eye, I would be ok. When i was 28, I had the second surgery. The surgeon didn't tell me that my eyes could get worse. They did. Now, instead of my eyes going out, they go up. It sucks. I'm an actor and have trouble getting work. I don't know if it's my eye, or me. I learned of Vision Therapy after my second surgery. If I had learned of it before, I don't think I would have had the surgery. With that being said, I REFUSE to let this control my life. It is not easy to deal with, but I have to think of the positives. At least I can see. In the Mayan culture, crossed eyes were seen as a sign of God and beauty. I have to focus on the good things and believe that God is so good, that the right person will love me, my crossed eyes and all. I am so happy to be able to share with all of you and have people who can relate to what I go through. You all are beautiful, special people who are enduring what many could not. I pray that your eyes become a gift to you. FYI: My idol, Forrest Whitaker (he has an eye problem and is an Oscar winner.) PRESS ON!! I have strabismus. It was in both eyes. At 18 months I had surgery in my left eye. I grew up with thick glasses and being teased until I was in middle school. Contacts became available and gave me a new life. I was able to meet boys in high school and still was teased, but not much.

I always thought, if I could just have surgery in the other eye, I would be ok. When i was 28, I had the second surgery. The surgeon didn’t tell me that my eyes could get worse. They did. Now, instead of my eyes going out, they go up. It sucks. I’m an actor and have trouble getting work. I don’t know if it’s my eye, or me.

I learned of Vision Therapy after my second surgery. If I had learned of it before, I don’t think I would have had the surgery.

With that being said, I REFUSE to let this control my life. It is not easy to deal with, but I have to think of the positives. At least I can see. In the Mayan culture, crossed eyes were seen as a sign of God and beauty. I have to focus on the good things and believe that God is so good, that the right person will love me, my crossed eyes and all. I am so happy to be able to share with all of you and have people who can relate to what I go through. You all are beautiful, special people who are enduring what many could not. I pray that your eyes become a gift to you.

FYI: My idol, Forrest Whitaker (he has an eye problem and is an Oscar winner.)

PRESS ON!!

]]> By: Moe http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-44232 Moe Thu, 29 Jul 2010 04:15:14 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-44232 Yes Zeeshan, I know how you feel. I am also 26, i've had 3 unsuccesful surgeries and as I get older the tougher it gets and the more preassure I hold. Avoiding people, sitting in a corner, look at the floor when you walk, not being able to break the ice,etc..is worst than any solitary confinement. And having your mind play and replay it all day long drives you insane and ADDish. I'm in your shoes and I am sorry to say that I have no advice or words of what do you call it, nevermind... Yes Zeeshan, I know how you feel. I am also 26, i’ve had 3 unsuccesful surgeries and as I get older the tougher it gets and the more preassure I hold. Avoiding people, sitting in a corner, look at the floor when you walk, not being able to break the ice,etc..is worst than any solitary confinement. And having your mind play and replay it all day long drives you insane and ADDish. I’m in your shoes and I am sorry to say that I have no advice or words of what do you call it, nevermind…

]]> By: Zeeshan http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-42797 Zeeshan Sat, 17 Apr 2010 19:51:03 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-42797 I am male and now 26.When I was 4,I was hit accidentally in the left eye by an airgun slug.The result was that I lost my binocular vision and the vision in my left eye is about 20%.This slowly led to strabismus and now it is quite pronounced.I was born with normal eyes but still I never knew how it feels to see with both eyes together and I would not in this life.I consider myself lucky that I experienced very little name calling at school and this handicap and has not limited my life in anyway.But when it comes to opposite,my confidence is shot to hell and I am simply cannot look any girl, or for that matter, any person in the eyes.My feeling of inferiority refuses to go away.I don,t want to take the risk of corrective surgery coz my vision cannot improve and also I don,t want surgery to make me acceptable to girls. I am more or less resigned to spending my life alone,sulking and miserable. I am male and now 26.When I was 4,I was hit accidentally in the left eye by an airgun slug.The result was that I lost my binocular vision and the vision in my left eye is about 20%.This slowly led to strabismus and now it is quite pronounced.I was born with normal eyes but still I never knew how it feels to see with both eyes together and I would not in this life.I consider myself lucky that I experienced very little name calling at school and this handicap and has not limited my life in anyway.But when it comes to opposite,my confidence is shot to hell and I am simply cannot look any girl, or for that matter, any person in the eyes.My feeling of inferiority refuses to go away.I don,t want to take the risk of corrective surgery coz my vision cannot improve and also I don,t want surgery to make me acceptable to girls.
I am more or less resigned to spending my life alone,sulking and miserable.

]]> By: Paul Edwards http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-41527 Paul Edwards Mon, 11 Jan 2010 01:03:08 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-41527 I think it does destroy your confidence a bit but a lot depends on what kind of character and sense of humor you have. Its easy to blame every wrong thing on your life on having a bad eye - but I have often found that the problem was actually a totally different reason. Paul I think it does destroy your confidence a bit but a lot depends on what kind of character and sense of humor you have.
Its easy to blame every wrong thing on your life on having a bad eye – but I have often found that the problem was actually a totally different reason.
Paul

]]> By: Paul Edwards http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-41526 Paul Edwards Mon, 11 Jan 2010 00:59:21 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-41526 Well, im glad to have come across this website. I was born with a squint in my right eye but, although I am still very conscious of it, I have tried not to let it wreck my life too much. I have tried to carry on a normal life. Frankly, I could have done without it an wonder what my life could have been using both eyes and both sides of brain at same time! I actually spent 9 years in the senior regiment of the British army. The Lifeguards which is a regiment in the household cavalry. I have had girls/women walk away from me on noticing - BUT I have still had quite a few girlfriends, mistresses and been married twice and have 4 (normal) daughters. I have been driving for over 30 years and started off on motor bikes, the last one being 1000cc. I have, as now, owned several motor cars and still drive every day, infact I drive a mini-bus - 9 seats - every day for a large cleaning company and everyone thinks I am a very good driver! I have had a couple of opps, one when I was quite young about 2 or 3 and wore an eye patch. And another when I was in the army... No cure. Im stuck with it! My first wife had a corrected squint and looked fine and one of my girlfriends also had a lazy eye too - but I still thought she was very sexy and attractive.. The best we can do is to carry on and live as normal a life as is possible. Paul Well, im glad to have come across this website. I was born with a squint in my right eye but, although I am still very conscious of it, I have tried not to let it wreck my life too much.
I have tried to carry on a normal life.
Frankly, I could have done without it an wonder what my life could have been using both eyes and both sides of brain at same time!
I actually spent 9 years in the senior regiment of the British army. The Lifeguards which is a regiment in the household cavalry.
I have had girls/women walk away from me on noticing – BUT I have still had quite a few girlfriends, mistresses and been married twice and have 4 (normal) daughters.
I have been driving for over 30 years and started off on motor bikes, the last one being 1000cc. I have, as now, owned several motor cars and still drive every day, infact I drive a mini-bus – 9 seats – every day for a large cleaning company and everyone thinks I am a very good driver!

I have had a couple of opps, one when I was quite young about 2 or 3 and wore an eye patch. And another when I was in the army… No cure.
Im stuck with it!
My first wife had a corrected squint and looked fine and one of my girlfriends also had a lazy eye too – but I still thought she was very sexy and attractive..

The best we can do is to carry on and live as normal a life as is possible.
Paul

]]> By: Taiwo http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-40028 Taiwo Thu, 08 Oct 2009 22:51:20 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-40028 This blog is really good because i'm 15 and never met a person with strabismus like myself so i wanted to know if their are people like me and what effects this condition has on your social life. This blog is really good because i’m 15 and never met a person with strabismus like myself so i wanted to know if their are people like me and what effects this condition has on your social life.

]]> By: Jack Fernandez http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/comment-page-1/#comment-39653 Jack Fernandez Fri, 11 Sep 2009 06:02:36 +0000 http://eyesapart.com/2006/11/18/strabismus-groups/#comment-39653 I've had stabimus my whole life. It varies, so I know surgury won't fix it for long. I'm 22 and I think after a few years I'll get the surgury and the find someone real quick and work on my career too before they go crossed again. I’ve had stabimus my whole life. It varies, so I know surgury won’t fix it for long. I’m 22 and I think after a few years I’ll get the surgury and the find someone real quick and work on my career too before they go crossed again.

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