Strabismus got you down? This will lift you up!

Brett shared the url to this video in our Eyes Apart Strabismus Support group recently. Brett writes, “If strabismus seems like a barrier to living our dreams and gaining acceptance, just imagine the hurdles these two beautiful dancers have managed to overcome.”

The ballet “Hand in Hand” is performed by Ma Li and Zhai Xiaowei, who lost limbs in separate auto accidents.

Ma, who lost her arm when she was 19, says, “It’s the power of love and the strength of joining hands, which keeps us persevering.”

Zhai was only 4 years old when he lost his leg. The determination, strength, and grace he displays reminds us that we are only as handicapped as we allow ourselves to be.

You can read more about these inspiring dancers at the links below:

Andy Lau Touched By Disabled Dancers.

“Hand in Hand” steals CCTV Dance Contest

52 thoughts on “Strabismus got you down? This will lift you up!”

  1. Madison, you are not alone. A lot of us have problems with photos. Some have found it helpful to turn their head toward the side of the bad eye so that the good eye is more prominent. Not sure if that would work for you, but try it. I’ve heard different ways people handle the, “Where are you looking?” question. Some give a little smile and and say, “I’m looking at you. What are you looking at?” Others try to be the first to pose the question as people look over their shoulder trying to figure out what you’re looking at. They quickly say, “What are you looking at? Was something going on back there that I missed?” Many have found the best approach is just to just confidently, “Oh, don’t pay any attention to my right eye, I can’t see very well out of it so it does its own thing. I’m looking at you with my left eye, so just look at it.” You may need to practice these approaches a few times so you’ll remember and be prepared. Probably the most important thing you can do is to concentrate on meeting the other person’s needs. Everyone wants others to be interested in them, and the more you can ask with sincerity how things are going for the other person and express genuine concern, the less they will notice your turned eye and the more they see the person behind those eyes. Many adults never get completely over this fear of looking people in the eye, but it does get easier for most as they get older. As far as not seeing other your age with this problem, see Nigel’s post and my response on just above yours on this thread. Shayla gave some excellent advice about social confidence here: http://www.eyesapart.com/2007/10/20/social-confidence/ and while you are on the social confidence thread look for Ali’s post. She is about your age. Also look for my conversation with Diana here: http://www.eyesapart.com/2006/09/02/who-will-love-me/ and Rosie here: http://www.eyesapart.com/2010/11/30/adult-bullies-lazy-eye-shopping-lines-job-interviews-holiday-gatherings/ All close to the same age and with similar needs. There are people in our Eyes Apart email group at Yahoo who have been through this also and will offer help and support. Just click the purple button at the top of every page on this site to join. Hope this helps! Lois

  2. im 21 yo.im from africa[kenya] and my parents had no info concerning this meaning i stayed with the condition until wen i was 20 wen i had my surgery.it hurts so bad when u know the kind of personality u have but u have to live otherwise.my surgery went pretty well id say 9/10.the changes are remarkable i must say but im still concious bout my eye.i keep asking ppl bout my eye alignment and i noticed that everybody has a different opinion.othrts thnk they are straigt others think viceversa

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